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Honest words on relationships, attachment and love addiction.
Couples & desire
Emotional safety is the foreplay
For a great many women desire doesn't precede intimacy — it grows out of it. What the research actually says.
Read →Attachment
Why understanding your attachment style is the first step to real love
Before you can choose differently, you need to understand how your nervous system learned to attach.
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Why you attract avoidant partners (and what it says about you)
It's not bad luck or coincidence. The attraction between anxious and avoidant follows a precise logic in the nervous system.
Read →Relational trauma
Trauma bonding: when pain feels like love
Why you feel more bound to those who hurt you than to those who love you consistently. The neurobiology of intermittent bonding.
Read →Attachment
Anxious attachment in adult relationships
Hyperactivation, need for reassurance, fear of abandonment. What it means to have an anxious style and how to transform it.
Read →Love addiction
Why love addiction isn't love
Distinguishing a hunger-bond from a chosen one. The signals that show where you really are, beneath the story you tell yourself.
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